Motherhood
For all the mama’s out there!
Motherhood. Such a complex word. When I think of motherhood, I can’t help but smile and tear up at the same time. It is probably the most exhausting, but fulfilling job I’ve had. Most of the time, I am unsure how to approach this topic. When other mom’s ask how things are going I usually get a surprised reaction when I say, ‘I can’t wait for my kid to go to bed tonight’. Is it just me? Am I the only one who is exhausted, counts down the minutes until their bedtime then instantly misses him when I kiss him goodnight. I think it is crucial for all the mama’s out there to support and embrace one another. We are a special breed because of how much we are capable of. The days become so meshed up with work, handling a toddler, marriage and oh yeah…self-care. Can’t forget that important thing. Is that all? Am I missing something else mom’s need to be aware of? Since becoming a mother, I have noted a few important tools or even moments of recognition that are helpful. I hope one or all of these are helpful.
Therapy
Easy, right? Welp, I find most mothers spend their therapy time focusing on their children or husband. I truly love hearing and learning about my client’s family life, but it takes away from any interpersonal discussions. I find it so helpful addressing their personal struggles or successes. Counseling and therapy for mothers is beneficial when balancing all the responsibilities, but also provides a safe place where she is not needed by a little one!
Schedule your alone time
Manicure or pedicure anyone? When I suggest planners or scheduling time alone most people roll their eyes at me. Trust me, I get it. BUT hear me out. Working parents, toddler play dates, family time and even school fills up our calendars! Before you know it, the month is full and you didn’t really have any opportunity to step away or do something that fills your own cup up. Every month I get a manicure. It’s only an hour but that hour means the world to me. I sit in silence while getting pampered and the next thing I know, I find myself more relaxed the rest of the day. The latest thing my husband and I have been doing is waking up before the day begins. He practices guitar while I read or work on homework. Try it for a week! Wake up one hour before the house does.
Do nothing
I literally just contradicted myself from the paragraph above. It is always recommended to PLAN. PLAN. PLAN. It works for a while but sometimes we just need a break. It’s okay to stay home in your pajamas, sit on your phone or watch crap television. You deserve it.
Share the responsibilities
Share the household responsibilities. Include your partner and children. You are not superwoman! I know you are trying to do everything, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Saying ‘no’ or giving someone else a task is quite freeing.
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